I love a day at home puttering, cleaning and just hanging out - drinking coffee; alternating between naps, crafting and cleaning out cupboards - doing that deep cleaning that you don't get a chance to do during the week. But after a while its time to get out and do something = shop. I headed out Friday around 4 and found all/most of what I've been looking for. My first stop was Texas Art Asylum, which is a fun, funky place on the edge of downtown. Ramona and Jennifer opened this place a little over a year ago and its so much fun to sift through all of the odd junk they collect. It's a place for artists and they have a good eye on finding just the little bits you'll need - now and later for stash. And the supply constantly changes, which is fun. Right now everything under $5 is 50% off - which was everything I bought - the rulers, black bolt of thread, little bottles (the real deal, not a Tim Holtz repro). I'm going to use the thread as a photo holder and I've looked all over for a pic of Jenni Bowlin's sample... can't find it. Oh well. One of the rulers says A Housewife will go out of her way for a yardstick. Wah? My last pic from there were to the two casters/wheels. Take a look at my Pinterest board - Mamie Jane did something awesome with them. She is my latest inspiration (all over my pinterest) - awesomesauce that girl.
Thursday, November 10, 2011
I read this post this morning at Cathy Zielski's blog and immediately reminded me of a scenario I have been playing over in my head the past few days. I'm trying to learn to let go (still) on several levels of taking care of my mother and also of pressuring my siblings to help out. It all started a few weeks ago, when my fabulous former neighbor, H stood in my foyer and told me how she realized her parents had to write the last chapter in their lives, that it wasn't up to her to script it as she saw fit. Those words hit me right between the eyes, as a year after placing my Mom into a nursing home has come to pass. There's alot of pride and self-worth received from taking care of someone. Sorry, I digress.
So I'm trying to visit my Mom more out of desire than guilt or pressure or "because I should" or because if I don't, they won't take good care of her... (hello, where's your faith?) And in doing so, I can listen to her and she has basically lost most of her ability to think or reason. Her mind is blank and yet, we can have the sweetest visits. It usually involves getting her ready for bed and when you take her shirt off (she gets confused on how to do it), she fights like crazy and even slaps you a bit. Last Sunday I felt so bad as I tugged on her head and neck while trying to remove it. So I threw the shirt away because the damn neck was too small. Once we get through the whole changing chore and sit back down on the bed is the sweet time. I bought her some uber soft pajamas with puppies on them and she loves them. seriously. And so we spend a little time looking at some photos on the wall and go over (several times) who the people are. One is of my puppy, Grace that my mother totally adored. My mother has never liked dogs but Grace was her companion for the five years she lived with me. She snuck food to her all day long and at night, Grace slept with Mom. It was so cute. Doesn't remember a thing about Grace. I usually brush her hair a bit and she loves it and I rubbed her neck slow and smooth and she really enjoyed that. It was so pure. And sometimes I lay on her bed and she brushes my hair with her hand and quietly I cry (with my face turned away). I don't know why, I just do - the whole thing is so overwhelming. And she screws her face up a bit and sort of cries and I soothe her and tell her it will all be okay. She is so appreciative of the visit and tells me so. several times. And then we recite the Our Father and Hail Mary, sometimes twice and I think she likes that she can remember the words. I truly feel His presence in the room. And after several hugs and I love yous, I go back home. to Grace.
Without a picture, it is a very good memory that I want to keep for a long time. I was never close to my mother and this time is so healing. Thank you for sharing my memory with me.